Therapy Help and Support in Adelaide for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) at The Calming Suite Psychology

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

If You Feel Like You Experience Emotions Larger Than Life, That You Can Literally Erupt Within two Seconds Flat and go from Zero to 50 Million. You May Feel an Intense Fear of Abandonment, Rejection, and Can Sometimes Find Great Issues Within Relationships. Have an Underlying Depth of Trauma, Negative, Critical and harsh Core Beliefs About yourself. And Sometimes Turn to harmful ways to shut off all the hurt and pain. We want you to know that there are ways to help with all of this, and we would love the opportunity to show you and work with you.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a multi-complex mental health disorder that is often greatly misunderstood. People with this disorder are frequently discriminated against and wrongly stigmatised.

A person living with BPD may experience some or all of the following symptoms which are  listed in the American Psychiatric Association Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders 5th edition (DSM-5), including: The pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) or the following:

  1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behaviour covered in Criterion 5)
  2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating
    between extremes of idealisation and devaluation
  3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
  4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g. spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating) (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behaviour covered in Criterion 5)
  5. Recurrent suicidal behaviour, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behaviour
  6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g. intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
  7. Chronic feelings of emptiness
  8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g. frequent displays of temper,
    constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
  9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms


There are Currently between 2% and 5% of Australians, that’s 520,000 to 1,300,000 individuals are affected by BPD at some stage in their lives. The symptoms of the disorder usually first appear in mid to late teens or in early adulthood. Women are three times more likely to be diagnosed than men, although recent research shows a similar prevalence for the condition.

The causes of BPD are not fully understood.  They are likely to involve biological, social and/or environmental factors. For some people these factors may relate to childhood experiences of trauma or neglect.

Contrary to common belief, people with BPD can recover! With early diagnosis, appropriate treatment and support the prognosis for people with BPD is positive.

Having BPD is not deliberate; it is a disorder people do not choose to have. And, people can recover!

For the Vast Majority of Individuals with BPD, Their Story of Pain and Hurt Began Way back in Childhood. Sometimes in the Home From Parents, Older Siblings, Extended Family. Sometimes at School/Sport/Dance From Peers/Teachers. Sometimes From Both

They Didn’t Chose This Path, Nor Did They Ask For it or Deserve it.

They Act Intensely and Irrationally Sometimes Because They Are so Exhausted From Spending Every Second of Their Day Simply Trying to Survive the Emotional Hurt and Pain they Constantly Feel.

If You Spend Time With Someone Who Has BPD and Allow Them a Safe Space to Talk About Their Story, There are Often a Lot of layers to What They have Experienced.

Most Would Do Anything to Change the Way They Act and How BIG They Feel.

One Thing I Do Know, is That Most Individuals with BPD are Fiercely Loyal and Would Do Anything For Those They Love and Care About. I Think Sometimes All They Want In Return is You to Tell Them Everything is Going to Be Okay and You Will Be There for Them No Matter What……

Range of Treatment Options for BPD

Because BPD is such a complex mental health disorder that is often ingrained in deep layers of inter-related comorbid issues that all require attention to really unlock the heart of the person’s pain and suffering, there is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ therapeutic approach that will suffice its level of severity and complexity. As such, for individuals presenting with BPD, the best treatment approach is often to create an individualised and tailored plan for them, as opposed to merely assuming that each individual with BPD will respond the exact same way to a single manualised therapy (e.g., DBT in isolation). 

What we find that tends to offer people with BPD the greatest chance of finding relief from symptoms, and learning how to effectively manage and live alongside the BPD in a healthy way, is to sit with the person, learn about their entire story, and then create a therapy just for them that is blended from a number of therapies, such as:

  • Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) 
  • Schema Therapy
  • Cognitive Processing Therapy
  • Trauma-Based Therapies
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
  • Somatic Therapy (Yoga for PTSD, emotional Dysregulation)
  • Art Therapy
  • Stabilisation/Grounding Techniques
  • Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT)